Climbing in Skirts

May 13, 2008

Dating advice from the Arab

Dear Arab,

Pickup artists and spooning? Would this type of guy allow a girl to hang out in his bed with no expectations? Is it weird that they would be into spooning on the first date?

-snugglebunny


Dear Snugglebunny,

I'm into spooning. It's really relaxing.

As for spooning on the first date... Yeah, why not? I generally do not bring a girl back to my place on the first date, so there usually isn't any spooning on the first date. If you move too fast, you won't get a second date. But if she comes back to my place on the second date and spends the night, I'll expect some spooning. I have certain rules about how well I have to know a girl before we have sex. It's usually difficult to learn enough about a girl on the first date, so spooning may come before sex. (Of course there are exceptions for every rule.)

-The Arab

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posted by jen @ 7:45 PM 0 comments

May 06, 2008

The list

I have to disagree with the whole 'know it when you see it' angle of dating. As someone who online dated forever...including to snare her current beau. Being specific has its benefits in online ventures as well as final decisions.
The best way to get what you want is to write it down. It's very simple, find out the dealbreakers and avoid them.
For me, I decided that I wanted someone tall, funny, independent and a host of other things. I got serious with guys that were not anything on the list or only some of the things because I was lonely.
Don't date because you are lonely. Date someone because you are truly interested in them and how they make you feel.
You want younger? Fine, go younger but know with the adventuring fly by the seat of the pants attitude comes possible lack of financial stability and the exhausting task of whether or not you can hang out with their friends.

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posted by esSDee @ 9:14 PM 0 comments

May 05, 2008

Who will be the Peter to my Wendy?

Part of my frustration with dating is that I don't know exactly what I am looking for. I will know it when I see it I think. In the back of my mind I know that eventually I would like to meet someone who is just like one of my best guy friends that I could never date because I feared that the friendship wouldn't survive if it didn't work out.

I am often too grounded. I question everything. I like looking after people. I need adventure, a co-conspirator, someone who can convince me that fairies exist.

I think this has sparked a recent interest in younger men. I joked about being a cougar in training. I am not looking at dating a twinkie. Just someone who hasn't become bitter and jaded like myself.

posted by jen @ 10:20 PM 0 comments

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A group of women who decided that it was important to live their lives any way they wanted vs living up to certain cookie cutter standards. Lucky for you they decided to share their adventure.