Climbing in Skirts

Yea, that's right so what. I wasn't meeting anyone but moony guitarboys at school and I had had enough. After TWO YEARS of hits and misses and a billion first dates, coffee dates and 'check please' moments I found a good one.
As an online dater I employed the following tactics.
1. put up a mysterious but straight forward profile. Ask for exactly what you want... don't be vague, as it leaves rooms for men to do guesswork.. guesswork bad. Guesswork allows them to say "well I love to watch Scrubs so I guess I kinda look like Zach Braff".
2. put up a flattering pic, COLOR PIC. NO glamour shots, preferably smiling unless you have jacked up teeth like Kate Moss or Jewel.
3. update the profile often, add interesting points like books you have read, movies you love...etc.
4. Sit back and let the fish jump in the boat.

The hardest part is wading through the dozens of emails that start out "I know that you are looking for someone tall, but I thoughtI would try to impress you with BLAH BLAH BLAH I don't care I know what I want and its not you BUH BYE.

Harsh? Yes. But dating is cruel. I entertained some interesting men who turned out to be good friends, wedding dates, conversationalists but no uber tall super geek with pop culture knowledge, a love of movies where things blow up and the ability to color coordinate. Then... I met my current partner.
I say partner cause that's what he is... boyfriend makes me think of middle school, like he's sticking notes in my locker and we're going to go to the dance together but stand on opposite sides of the room and shyly wave all night. We share the responsibilities in life and that is awesome.
He showed up (our first date was a month after he made initial email contact) well put together and exactly as advertised. I was late (gotta love the bus). He stood up when I got to the table and the moment I saw him my stomach went flipflop.

We've been going out for, well it will be two years on Thursday. A milestone for both of us. Turns out he'd been living across the river from me for the past 6 years and our paths never crossed.

My advice for those online dating, sign up for a bunch of sites. I highly recommend Match.com and TheOnion.com personals. Nerve.. I was there but then they got all you must pay bleah bleah. Put up a couple profiles and see which one is working the best. Be direct and remember that if you don't ask for what you want you can't complain about what you get.

Good Luck.
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